Most brides and grooms will tell you that that their wedding day went by in the blink of an eye.
Surrounded by friends, family and loved ones (some of whom you are meeting for the first time from your spouse’s side) there’s pressure to spend time talking to everyone. Then there’s portrait sessions, cake cutting, dancing and a plethora of other fun activities — all packed into a relatively short amount of time. Finally, before you know it, it’s time for the send off. Where did the day go?
This is why there are two pieces of advice we always offer to our brides and grooms:
1. Hire a really good photographer.
2. Set aside some time during the reception to make a memory
As a Doctor of Psychology, I cannot stress the importance of the latter enough. So maybe you’ve hired a fantastic photographer, but how do you actually make a memory on your wedding day?
Find a quiet place
At Garden Grove Austin, this is typically what we have actually started calling “the make a memory room.” It’s a small dining room located just off the bridal/honeymoon suite, away from the hustle and bustle. Some of our couples choose to have their photographer also capture this moment, and some choose to just spend it together.
Eating dinner in a quiet place with just your spouse is important for so many reasons, including remembering the day. You likely spent a significant portion of your budget on the food, and it’s typically one of the focal points of a wedding, but I cannot tell you how many married people (myself included) barely even tasted it on their wedding day!
The five senses are a critical part of forming lasting memories, and food covers four of them: sight, smell, touch and taste!
Reminisce with your new spouse
Your vocal chords may already be a bit fatigued, but talking with your spouse about the day prior to this point, is huge. Discuss how you felt when you saw each other for the first time and your favorite moments during the ceremony. How did you feel when you walked down the aisle, newly husband and wife?
This covers sense #5 (sound), plus repetition shortly after an event acts as a sort of mental file labeling process that tells your brain that these memories are important and belong in the long-term memory drawer.
Take a few tender first moments as husband and wife, because you might not get another chance to until the festivities are all over. Your new spouse will likely be wearing cologne or perfume. If you focus on that while you embrace -- even if just for a minute -- that scent could bring you right back to that very moment the next time you encounter it.
Think about the memory forming process like carefully wrapping a precious gift, taking careful mental note of what it smells, tastes, looks, feels and sounds like. The more you wrap your memory in these different layers, the more preserved it will be when you go to “unwrap” it later.
Garden Grove is a family owned and operated venue; as such, we are truly invested in each and every one of our couples’ days, and helping them make lifetime-lasting memories of their day is so incredibly important to us!